By Dr. Jeff Davis
Imagine having a
good marriage. You are living with the person of your dreams. You have the
chance to finish your life with someone whom you are not only crazy about but
you love them to life.
Everything is going
well. You both pursue your individual careers. You make plans for a family,
home and vacations. This is how life is supposed to be; together again.
And then it
happens. Your loved one goes to the doctor and gets a bad report. Upon further
tests you both find out that cancer is the culprit and your whole future has
just changed. Now, instead of planning for a long life together you enter into
survival mode.
Cancer is a killer.
It has decimated thousands of relationships, impacted millions of lives and
made what should be a great life one filled with pain and fear.
Cancer can do the
following to any relationship;
1) Fill those
affected with fear - since cancer is a killer it is hard to hear the name and
not have fear. The person diagnosed with the disease has to deal with the
constant mental reminder of "I have cancer'. The loved ones involved
typically are very cautious as to what they can say and how much emotions they
should show to others.
2) Gets in the way
of intimacy - Cancer can affect the sex lives of a couple due to one partner no
longer being in the same place they were prior to the onset of cancer. It also
impacts emotional intimacy and connectedness between the partners.
3) Kills your
dreams - most people dealing with this disease don't dream long term. They see
the battle as fatal and begin to make arrangements to leave the earth as
opposed to seeing a long life ahead of them.
Cancer ruins
relationships. Dreams, goals, aspirations and the future plans people make are
all jeopardized by this killer. This is a tragedy indeed but one that does not
have to continue to be as bad as it has been.
I encourage you to
join with the many fine organizations that exist to do away with cancer. There
is research being done and great strides in how to deal with the disease,
alleviate the symptoms and making those afflicted as comfortable as possible.
Don't let cancer
take anything else away from you and your loved ones. Stay encouraged for you
too can come out on top!
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